Week 35: Dress


Do these things this week
Select planner and sign contract
Two dress outings (plus fittings)
Start shopping for dress accessories

SIGNING THE WEDDING PLANNER PAPERWORK

When you find the right wedding planner and / or designer for you, arrange a time to meet and sign the contract. Before you sign, make sure it includes all of the information below.

  • Who: name and contact info (your’s and their’s)
  • What: everything they’ll be providing
  • Where: the location of your events
  • When: dates of service
  • How much: cost for service, including any additional fees
  • Receipt: the deposit paid, the balance due and due dates
  • Uh oh: cancellation policies and emergencies

Once the two of you have signed on the dotted line, file your copy of the contract into a folder that you can easily access later. Update your budget to reflect any deposits you made and any additional funds owed.

YOUR WEDDING DRESS: THE FIRST FITTING

With inspiration in hand, you’re ready to start trying on dresses. If you’re still not sure what you’re looking for, don’t sweat it. Sometimes trying a on few different styles is what you need to figure out what feels most “you.” Before you head to a boutique find out if they carry dresses within your budget and size range, whether you’ll need an appointment to browse gowns, and if there’s anything you need to bring like shoes or lingerie. Then schedule your first fitting and prepare to play dress up.

As you shop around bridal boutiques, you’ll probably notice that most wedding dresses require extensive alterations (sometimes in the hundreds of dollars) – ask your boutique attendant to help you factor in these costs when choosing a dress that falls within your budget.

A NOTE ON COST: FROM CONSIGNMENT TO COUTURE

If you’re working with a smaller budget, or if the idea of having an attendant pull ten pounds of tulle over your head sounds about as fun as a day at the dentist, visit boutiques or websites that carry off the rack dresses, like J. Crew, Ann Taylor, BHLDN, BCBG, or even department stores like Nordstrom’s or JC Penny (who said looking fabulous has to cost a fortune?). Etsy is a great stop if you want to have a dress made to your specific measurements. Once Wed will let you browse second hand gowns that still look like new.

TIPS FOR FINDING THE RIGHT DRESS

You won’t know which dress is right for you until you try it on, but there are a few tips to help figure out what shape and style will look best on you.

Wedding dresses come in several silhouettes as listed below:

  • A-line: fitted at top with a slight flare below the waist. A-line gowns are classic and look good on every body type.
  • Ballgown: fitted at top with a bigger-is-better skirt. Ballgowns are a great choice if you’re heavier on bottom than on top.
  • Empire: similar to an A-line, however an empire dress has a high waist falling right below the chest. Empire dresses are a great way to create the illusion of height if you’re petite and can also help create the illusion of curves.
  • Fit-and-Flare / Mermaid: fitted through the hips with a flared skirt below. Fit-and-flare or Mermaid dresses can add curves if you’re lacking them or accentuate curves if they’re your best feature.
  • Sheath: fitted throughout with no flare. Sheath dresses look great on tall women or women with fewer curves.
  • Both David’s Bridal and BRIDES Magazine have good tips for finding the right dress shape for your body type.

    If you plan to wear shapewear or a specific bra, wear them to your appointments at the bridal salon and to every fitting after that. And even if you don’t already know what shoes you plan to wear on your wedding day, bring a pair with a similar heel height. Doing so will help you know how the dress will fit on your wedding day.

    HOW DO YOU KNOW IT’S “THE ONE”

    The right dress is the one that makes you look and feel the best. Don’t pressure yourself to find it on your first outing. It’s OK to visit more than one boutique before finding the dress for you. Once you’ve found it, you’ll know it. If there’s a dress you can’t get out of your head or can’t wait to try on again, it’s the one.

    FITTINGS AND ALTERATIONS

    Depending on how many alterations your dress needs, you may have to schedule more than one fitting before your wedding day. If you purchase your gown from a full-service bridal boutique, they will likely handle all of the alterations and fittings. You’ll arrange to try it on again several weeks before your wedding day. If you know your dress size will change significantly between your first fitting and your wedding day, you might want to schedule a second fitting at least two months before your wedding day for any final alterations. Otherwise, you’ll have a final fitting two to three weeks before your wedding.

    If you’re buying your dress off the rack it will often need fewer alterations. Just make sure you have it back from the tailor at least two weeks before your wedding date so you can make sure it fits well and that all of your accessories work.

    ACCESSORIES

    As you’re browsing for dresses keep your accessories in mind. Sashes, belts, veils, shoes, shrugs, and jewelry help to personalize your wedding dress look. You don’t need to make any decisions, just get a feel for what you’ll need and what you like. Some bridal boutiques can serve as one-stop shops, but if you want a more unique or custom look, browse independent designers on website like Etsy to find accessories that work for you.

    Also, don’t forget to buy the right undergarments for your dress. If you want to make sure panty lines or straps aren’t showing, ask if your tailor can either sew bra cups into to your dress or sew snaps to keep your bra straps in place.