Week 13: Song Selection + Playlists

Do these things this week
Select ceremony music
Select first dance song
Select mother-son and father-daughter songs
Select last dance song
Draft playlist and "do not play" list
Discuss dance lessons
Find a dance studio
Book dance lessons

It’s fair to say that picking out your playlist can be an incredibly personal process. As you pick out songs for your processional, recessional, first dance, mother-son dance and father-daughter dance reflect back on special memories and moments you’ve had together. If you and to choose a song to tell them how you feel, what would it say?

For a little inspiration see Spotify’s guide to the most popular first dance songs. Or Buzzfeed’s round up of 144 songs for every part of your wedding.

You want your guests to hit the dance floor, so spend some time making a short list of “must have” songs you want your DJ or band to play during your reception as well as a “do not play” list if there are songs you really don’t like. If you’re using an iPhone, start compiling your wedding day playlist for your dinner reception and dance floor. If you’re making your own playlist, ask your bridesmaids and groomsmen for suggestions – they’ll have some.

A lot of couples ask their DJ or bandleader to open up the dance floor after dinner and dessert, but some couples choose to do their first dance and maybe even the mother-son and father-daughter dances sooner. How you schedule it is up to you. If you’re working with a wedding planner, DJ or band leader, or even a hands-on caterer he or she may offer suggestions about the schedule. If not, decide between yourselves what schedule you’d like to follow, and have fun with it. You could have your first dance followed by an open dance floor with breaks later in the evening for the mother-son and father-daughter dances, or you could do them all one after the other.


If the thought of twirling around in front of your loved ones gives you weak knees, feign an injury or consider pulling the fire alarm. Otherwise, man up! Find a dance teacher. The middle school shuffle never hurt anyone, but you can also step it up a notch in less than a handful of lessons from a professional dance teacher. If you do decide to seek professional dancing help, start looking into dance studios in your area. A lot of studios will offer a short and affordable series of classes for couples practicing their first dance.