Week 12: The Art of Thank You

Do these things this week
Select all flower arrangements
Address and send thank you notes for bridal shower
Discuss wedding rehearsal and options for wedding vows with officiant
Schedule final dress fitting
Select and purchase wedding favors

While this whole wedding thing is kind of about you, it’s also kind of not. It’s about the friends and family who shaped you into who you are! It might seem counter-intuitive, but the more you focus on your guests, the more fun you’ll have. Come together to toast, to laugh, and to celebrate – you’ll never have more people you care about in one place again.

“Thank you” is a great way to get the ball rolling. During these final three months, keep these words on the tip of your tongue. Here are a few ideas for writing the perfect thank you card.

  • Be specific about what you’re thanking them for
  • Reference fond memories
  • Use repetition to sound poetic
  • Skip sincerely. Use “love,” “warmly,” or “xo” instead.

A bad thank you would sound something like this:

Dear Kimberly,

Thank you for the 6-piece glassware set. We will use it.


But a good thank you takes the time to really consider the person on the other end and what they mean to you.

Kimberly –

I can’t believe how far we’ve come from chasing boys in Mrs. Gilroy’s class (3rd grade) – I’m getting married! Ahh! The glassware was really thoughtful of you – cocktails here we come. You’re an amazing friend, a confidante, and a dreamer – and you have great taste to boot!



Keep in touch with your bridal boutique or tailor as to how many additional fittings you may need. If your size has changed significantly, or if you didn’t have the right undergarments at your first fitting, you might want to schedule at least two more fittings – one for the next month or so and another one within the last 3 weeks before your wedding day.


This is also a good time to touch base with your officiant. If you haven’t already discussed and scheduled your rehearsal, take a moment this week to do so. While coordinating with your officiant, schedule some time to discuss your vows, especially if you plan on writing your own or including special readings into your ceremony.