How to Pick Your Wedding Party

Planning your wedding is going to be one of the most memorable experiences of your life, and it’s also going to be full of big decisions. Starting with this one. Once you’re ready to begin planning, it’s time to decide who to pick for your wedding party (or if you even want a wedding party at all!). But it’s not always easy to know how to pick your wedding party.

We all know that there are a few unspoken rules when it comes to deciding who’s in and who’s out of your wedding party. If your fiancé’s parents are covering part of your wedding expenses, they might expect you’ll include your future sister-in-law in your group of maids and the same goes for the opposite scenario. If your parents are paying, it might be a huge gesture of gratitude for your man to include your brother in his team of groomsmen.

Even if you don’t need help figuring out who you want in your wedding party, let’s spend a little time thinking about what you want in a wedding party. So before you make the ask, figure out what it is you’ll be looking for from the people you select. Do you want a team of people by your side from beginning to end, tagging along for your dress fittings, planning the bachelor party, or setting aside the next 30 Saturdays for crafternoons? Or are you just looking to have a few loved ones stand alongside you on your big day?

As you ask your bridesmaids and groomsmen to be a part of your big day, find out what their needs are, too. These are the folks who will be working tirelessly to do their part in pulling off your celebration, and chances are they’ll spend a good amount of time, energy, and your money to do so. Even our lifelong besties have limits, so communicating your needs early on and remembering to say thank you throughout will go a long way in making sure everyone’s feeling the love as they walk down that aisle.

Sometimes narrowing down choices is tough. Your Maid of Honor and Best Man can help! Ask yourself who has been a major part of shaping you into who you are. Who is going to be part of your life going forward?

When you give these questions some thought, you’ll have a better idea as to how to pick your wedding party.