How to Start Planning Your Wedding

If you’re engaged, then you’re probably familiar with the rush of excitement followed by the overwhelming emotions that come with planning a wedding. We spoke with experts for the best advice on how to start planning your wedding.

When you envision your dream wedding, what does it look like? Big and fancy? Small and intimate? Homespun and DIY? If you go further from there, what do you zero in on? Chances are you already know what’s important to you, but now can also be a good time to start jotting that down.

Event stylist Jenn Elliott Blake encourages couples to “start by setting priorities. Ask yourself what’s most important to you when imagining the celebration of your wedding day. Is it great food? Incorporating family traditions? Beautiful flowers? A cake from the bakery you’ve always bought every celebration cake you’ve ever eaten from? Set your top three priorities for your day and start there.”

Don’t worry about specifics yet, just think big picture. Whatever it is, we’ll call these your Top Three Things, and you’ll refer back to them whenever you have a big decision to make or it feels like things are getting overwhelming.

Start with the list below:

  • The Perfect Venue
  • Delicious Decor
  • Amazing Food & Drink
  • Lots of Friends & Family
  • Flawless Hair & Makeup
  • Magnificent Music
  • Incredible Photos and Video
  • Dressed to the Nines
  • Your Dream Vacation
  • Fantastic Florals
  • Amazing Assistants

Don’t overthink these. There’s a chance they may change as you jump into the thick of things. But getting an initial idea of what matters to you will help the rest of the pieces come together. Knowing your priorities will also help you determine where to allocate your budget when selecting vendors and decorations, and it will give you a better idea of the experience you’re trying to create both for yourselves and for your guests.

While you’re identifying your Top Three Things and the emotions you want to evoke on your wedding day it might also help to walk through the questions below.

  • Do we feel strongly about being married in a house of worship?
  • Who do we want to marry us?
  • Do we want to our ceremony and reception to be in the same location?
  • What are the traditions that are important to us?

You have some time to figure all of this out, but knowing the answers to those questions will help you begin to determine when and where you want to get married or who you’d like to officiate.

Visit our First Steps page for more tips on how to start planning your wedding.